Well things have been pretty crazy around here lately. What with extra dance classes for Sarah and the boys both starting new jobs it makes for some exciting days.
I am so happy that the boys have finally got decent jobs, however for this month until they can get some decent checks it means that we end up paying for everything.
We had to pay for new gloves, new work boots, thank goodness Rob had some coveralls that they good use, however one also need new rain gear. We are paying for their fuel, their insurance payments, some food, and then Matt's truck breaks down. So now he not only is using our other Rob's truck but now we also have to pay to get his fixed.
Ok I know now that I sound like I am whining but honestly I find this hard. The oldest had been working for two years and living at home with no real bills before he quit and waited a month before getting a new job, the middle one has been working a while before changing to this new job, however he lives out on his own.
I feel like I am caught between a rock and a hard place.
I don't know when to let them either sink or swim. I know that eventually they will be able to not need us as financially before but I have to wonder if we are doing the wrong thing by not just letting them figure it out themselves.
I told my hubby tonight that I think being parents of adult children is harder than being parents of young children.
I think it just boils down to the fact that this parenting thing is hard no matter what age.
Good thing I truly do enjoy the rewards so much. :)
I am linking up with Sharla at The chaos and the clutter.
Yep, I thought that parenting would get easier as the kids got older, but it seems to go the opposite way!
ReplyDeleteIt might be too late to implement this with your boys, but with our kids, we made a rule (a suggestion from my friend Justine) that they had to put 50% of anything they made aside and that money can only be used to buy a car or put a down payment on a house. It can also be used for things such as car insurance, but those types of things have to be okayed by us. With the other 50%, they have to buy most of their own clothing (after age 14) and whatever else they want.
But you are in a hard place because they have expenses related to their jobs right now and if you don't pay them, they won't be able to work. Yikes!
Thanks for linking up to Truth Tuesday!!!